Being the mother of two boys, I am often asked, "So, are you going to try for a girl?" My reply is always the same, "Honestly, I don't know what I would do with a girl." Then, their usual follow-up reply is, "Oh, but you need a girl." I hear that a lot from my mom (although if we stop at two kids, she would be just fine with that. She LOVES her grandsons!). I hear it a lot from others too. For some people, I think that's true. Some people need a little girl. So far, I haven't felt that "need".
I feel like such a BOY mom, you know? I am all about the rough-housing, tackling, sport watching, mommy-loving little boys. I love to wrestle as much as the next dad. I'll challenge any ref on a bad call during an important game. I'll get out in the backyard and get dirty and sweaty and love every minute of it.
I love that Tristan loves sports. I love that he gets excited every time he sees a dinosaur. I even think it's precious when he sees a princess vanity on t.v. and says, "Mommy, that's for girls. I do not want that for Christmas." I love that one day, my boys will be bigger than I am. I don't know, I just love every part of being a mom to boys.
In high school, I had two close girlfriends and many casual friends that were girls, but when it came down to dependability and trust, I felt more connected to my three best guy friends. With my guy friends, I knew that no matter what, when I told them a secret, it was kept a secret. I knew that if I needed a shoulder to cry on, they would be there. When I needed someone to hang out with, with no drama attached, I could always call them. It was just easy, you know? Now that's not to say I didn't love my girlfriends because I did. I just could easily relate to the guys. They didn't really sweat the small stuff, and they got me. I think that's one of the reasons God has blessed us with boys thus far. For me, they're just easy.
Now girls are precious, precious, precious! They are sweet, like to do sweet girly things, and can grow to be their mommy's best friends (or so my mom always tells me ;D). They have the greatest clothes EVER ( you can find cute girl clothes ANYWHERE! What about my sweet boys, people?!). They think about people's feelings and write sweet notes to their parents (I did for my mom, anyway). I LOVE to play with my friends' little girls. I love to hear their stories, and watch them priss and prance around. I love to talk to them about all their beautiful clothes, purses, and make-up. It's a blast! It's precious! However, when it comes right down to it, I just cannot imagine my life with a little girl.
In the future, Channing and I have talked about the desire to have another child...WAAAAY in the future! Currently my hope is to have another little boy. I just want a house full of boys! Although that is my current desire, I know that God knows what's best, and if He gave us a girl, I know I would figure out how to be her mommy. I know I would love her just as much as my little boys and would be so thankful for her. I guess only time will tell. It will be interesting to see how our lives play out. In the meantime, I will enjoy the company of my friends' little girls. In just a few months, I will get to meet a very special little girl...Baby Girl Miller! I am SO excited and can hardly wait. Who can resist a sweet little Crimson Tide girl?!
In closing, I will say that I do have an urging desire for Channing to have a daddy's girl...totally for him, not for me. We have two little mommy's boys...110%. I know things could change in the future, but for now it's all about mommy. Don't get me wrong, our boys love their daddy, but are super attached to me!
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